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RE: My Eli - Khyeranggi - 08-26-2020
Devastation comes and goes. My heart breaks with you. When I lost my boys after the typhoon, I went dark. I keep coming back here and I hope you do too! Hope springs eternal. It is weird, and for the longest time I was so depressed. I keep coming back because we are sorta family. These days are dark, for sure, but know that folks here will see you through. This forum saw me through dark days. Just keep coming back!
Devastation comes and goes. My heart breaks with you. When I lost my boys after the typhoon, I went dark. I keep coming back here and I hope you do too! Hope springs eternal. It is weird, and for the longest time I was so depressed. I keep coming back because we are sorta family. These days are dark, for sure, but know that folks here will see you through. This forum saw me through dark days. Just keep coming back! And we will all remember Eli. Just as everyone remembers Claude and Steele.
It is a great something to share this love. I am on a lot of forums, but this love is deep love. I think it is a cat love, you will be better later.
RE: My Eli - admin - 09-08-2020
So it's been two weeks since we lost Eli and Tiki is still inconsolable. It is too soon for me but I suspect that he needs a new friend. To those who have lost a cat and the remaining cat spends his waking hours looking for him do you think that this will pass? He's just so sad...
RE: My Eli - JanH - 09-08-2020
We have had this experience more than once and the only fix was a new kitten.
RE: My Eli - admin - 09-08-2020
I suspected as much. It's a daunting prospect for me in more ways than just emotionally. With Tiki's breeder retired, no cat shows scheduled and a minefield of poor Ragdoll breeders out there I'm at a loss as to how to find another.
RE: My Eli - HelenMac - 09-08-2020
When we lost Tigga Shadow was inconsolable crying all the time pacing the floor looking for him and also started acting out by doing things he knew he wasn't allowed just like a child attention seeking. 3 weeks later little Zimba arrived in our home and Shadow once again became his normal happy loving self. They were curled up asleep together within half an hour of Zimba arriving in our home. The change in Shadow was instantaneous. I thought I wasn't ready either but it actually helped me too. Instead of crying all the time (which wasn't helping Shadow) I was finding myself laughing at the antics these two boys were getting up too.. I still miss my boy so much but the joy that came with seeing Zimba and Shadow playing and Shadow happy again really helped. Thinking of you and sending lots hugs and prayers your way.
RE: My Eli - admin - 09-08-2020
Thanks for the encouragement Helen.
RE: My Eli - Codysmom - 09-08-2020
(09-08-2020, 12:09 PM)admin Wrote: So it's been two weeks since we lost Eli and Tiki is still inconsolable. It is too soon for me but I suspect that he needs a new friend. To those who have lost a cat and the remaining cat spends his waking hours looking for him do you think that this will pass? He's just so sad...
Reading this just makes me cry. When I lost my Fozzy, Katy did the same, she would walk around the house crying for him as they were so bonded. I could only give her all the love possible knowing that in my situation I couldn't get another cat/kitten for fear of it contracting the Corona virus and getting FIP from the possible infection of my other cats.
What helped in my situation with Katy is that I was around all day and I could love and cuddle her a lot, also having Bailey (whom she loves to play with) as well as Cody helped so much. Eventually she did come out of her grief and return to her normal sweet self, but I think she misses having a kitty friend she could cuddle with (Cody only cuddles with humans), but on the other hand she's now started to become a lap cat which she never really was before.
However, I do agree with what has already been said about getting another kitten/cat. Although I totally understand that you might not feel ready to get another kitten yet, I do believe it'll help Tiki to get over his grief and for you too, even though it may not feel like that right now.
Thinking of you so much, sending love and hugs your way. xoxo
RE: My Eli - admin - 09-08-2020
Thanks for the advice Colleen. It means so much.